With all the technology we have buzzing around our heads today, the crazed rush of traffic with people shooting at each other and running each other off the road with road rage in full force, the stressed out workplaces with our jobs, kids turning to drugs to zone out; it is no wonder we are afflicted with rampant stress and built up anger that we can’t control. In order to keep our lives in working order, and stay sane in the process; we must effect some sort of anger control that will allow us to stay on an even keel and not go off the deep end.

One of the biggest problems we are faced with as civilized humans living in an orderly society, is that we are not allowed by societal norms, to act out our feelings and vent our rage whenever the situation presents itself. As a small child, you were probably taught not to cry if you were a boy, not to spit at someone if you were a girl, and Lord help you if you whacked someone over the head when they made you mad. Uh uh uh—not nice. Now don’t act up. Well, what happens then. I’ll tell you what happens; you stash away that anger and that feeling of wanting to whack someone over the head one time too many, and one day the rage that has built up over the years will just explode without warning over the most trivial of affronts. Stifling anger is not a good thing; and a good method of anger control when used wisely is the answer to maintain positive mental health and a healthy body.

Studies have shown that combining the mental stress and need for anger catharsis with a physical outlet is one of the most effective means of anger control. By letting the anger and rage pour out of you while you engage in a venting means of physical action designed to trigger the anger point and flush out your system; in the long run, you will gain control over your angry actions and be able to rise above it and calm yourself. Sometimes, if you are angry with a particular person who has done something against you; just ripping up papers, or burning something , or shouting will do the trick and vent the anger. Other times, the rage is more pronounced; or has built up over the years, so something like taking a baseball bat and smashing things, or throwing dishes against a wall (old ones), or screaming while pounding a pillow will help you vent and calm down. Just by getting a system of anger control in place will help you in other areas of your life, like curing insomnia and improving your overall health.

Just keep in mind, that no matter what the cause of your anger or rage; do not ever take out your feelings physically on another person or hurt another person. This causes nothing but bigger problems and can get you into a lot of trouble that you don’t need on top of everything else. Sometimes a verbal interchange or screaming match will vent some anger and give you the satisfaction of speaking your mind; but what works more often than not, is taking a symbol of that person and release the anger against that symbol——such as burning a picture, or stabbing it, or ripping it to pieces.

When you need to get away and put your anger control method into action, do just that—-get away by yourself so you can act out your anger without having all kinds of interruptions or peeping eyes that will make you feel self conscious and inhibit the venting process. Get into a back room somewhere, or someplace where you can be alone for a while and no one will bother you, and let it rip. Grab those pillows and whack them unmercifully, rant and rave and scream until your throat hurts—just do it, and get it all out. After you are done, you’ll be pooped; but you will have gotten all that pressure out of you without involving anyone else, and you’ll feel so much better.

Finally, one of the most cathartic things you can do to help yourself get rid of deep seated anger or fear or rage against someone, is to forgive that person totally for what happened. If someone has wronged you in some way, and you are angry as hell about it; don’t let it fester and eat away at you. You end up being the victim and the loser in the situation, so if you can forgive the person totally and completely after you have used your anger control methods and vented; then you come out on top and are a much better and calmer person for it.

Keeping pressured rage and anger pent up inside you day in and day out, is not good for anyone around you nor is it good for you. Life is full of stress and hardship and people wanting to walk all over you just to better themselves, and if you let all that hurt and sadness and anger stay inside and never let it out in a positive way, you will be the worse for wear. Everyone, no matter what station in life they are, needs anger control that can help them stay calm and unstressed and be able to defuse the stresses in life as they occur. Life is to short to stay angry and hurting all the time; anger control will help you make the most out of life and feel good about it in the process.